Abuse Generally
Victims/survivors sometimes do not understand what abuse itself is. We are lied to constantly that we
‘control our lives”, “are helping others”, that perpetrators are “our friends”,
etc. Id like to offer this understanding of abuse generally so that by
explanation and comparison we can see that we are being abused.
Abuse is harm suffered by perpetrators. It can be sexual, physical,
psychological, emotional, ritual, spiritual, economic, political, social, etc.
Harm is done by acts, policies, deception or anything that degrades. As
different to say harm done by nature, it is abuse as there is an intent by
perpetrators to willfully hurt you. The severity depends on the intent, the
length in time and the consequences. A grandfather, raping and molesting you at
his house and within a criminal satanic group for many years, causes severe
psychological harm. A molesting uncle, who wants to get his jollies for that
moment, causes mild harm. If the abuse is ongoing it is extremely detrimental
with compounded effects. Consequences occur such as serious physical injury and
post traumatic stress disorder (ptsd) where there is extreme psychological
damage. Abuse is about power and control. Rape is not about sexual pleasure,
punching is not about physical exercise, selfishly owning a company is not
about producing goods, etc. Perpetrator/s abuse a more powerful position to
inflict harm and obtain more power.
The perpetrator either produces
a more powerful position or situation, or takes advantage of one already
produced. This could be age, family position, economic control, political
control, etc. The abused cannot escape because they are placed in a submissive
or less powerful position and situation. The perpetrators then abuse violent
and deceptive acts or policies in order to control people and selfishly obtain
some benefit. This benefit maybe money, more power and control, a continuation
of these, prestige, sexual gratification, etc. Abuse also entails threats,
lies, violence or any other means that keeps the abused person or people from
telling other people, particularly people who can do something about it such as
law enforcement or innocent family. Abuse also takes advantage of the non
acceptance or disbelief of the abuse in society generally.
Since the abused person wants to tell others, the perpetrators tells
lies eg that a truly loved one wanted it to happen. The perpetrator/s threaten
eg something horrible will happen to someone in the family. They also produce
and manipulate a situation whereby a third party perpetrator acts like someone
"who will listen" and then destroys the trust so that the person wont
tell anyone else, etc. There are a whole range of destructive ways that
perpetrators try to stop people from talking about the abuse.
Abuse is generally seen in personal terms ie the direct and continuing
effect on a persons body, mind, emotions, psyche such as sexual assault or
rape. There are also equally abusive political, social, economic, spiritual
areas which affect a person or a group of people collectively. Deep trauma
occurs when deceived by a state and abused by this state for a wealthy and more
powerful political elite. Spiritual abuse occurs when ones spiritual nature or
beliefs are harmed through deception or misrepresentation. There are also two
other important aspects with abuse. One is to commit an act for itself. This
could happen once or for a long time. The perpetrator/s want is to get something
out of the act. Rape by unknown persons falls into this. There is also
committing the act and then abusing it further for other reasons. A person can
be systematically electrocuted in order to train them to do other things. The
act is cruel and harmful in itself, and is then also abused to control and
train the person to do what the perpetrators want.
Not being abused is having total control of your life. Having total
control means being able to be and express who you genuinely are. It means
having authority over your life. You can choose what you want
to do, where you want to go, who your friends and lovers are, what job or
studies you want, or not work or study! etc. After choosing, you can then
fulfill them. You can travel, set up house, enjoy recreation, have a job,
study, have a relationship or be single, etc. Of course these are in
consideration of other peoples wants as well, and so negotiation about
fulfilling both your and their wants is needed.