Overview

 

Deprogramming is lessening or undoing the programming and training. It means being aware of what the programming and training is, and taking steps to lessen or stop its effects and operation. Programming is firstly the process of traumatising, creating dissociated and non conscious parts, and deceiving them into being loyal to perpetrators. The programming is also the system of mind control, the training and establishment of roles and tasks with accessing. Deprogramming is undoing the system, the training and the process so that the person is not controlled and deployed. Therefore it is the key way to breaking free. Unfortunately, deprogramming takes up a lot of the time in recovery and will continue until you have coped with or undone it ie are free from the perpetrators and not greatly disturbed by deployment memories. There are periods of less stress such as between deployment. Programming comes on particularly during crisis times when accessing and deployment are demanded.

 

 

Demystifying it

 

It is important firstly to demystify programming and deprogramming. Many people have the impression that it is some very complicated and technological thing that is beyond understanding. Programming is really about setting up an abusive mind set and doing bad training which happens generally such as at schools, the army, the workplace, etc. For example, in the army, the mind set is one of total discipline and extreme patriotism. The training is to do tasks that fulfill these. The abuse happens in the inhumanitarian training and in the delusion of  “serving totally, including dying, for ones country’, or in reality the economic company elite. Deprogramming here is becoming aware that the soldier has been brainwashed into specific behaviour and thinking that doesn’t benefit him, and then detraining himself so that s/he doesn’t have to behave and think like this anymore. Obviously, it also means leaving the army.

 

How programming differs is that the programming process and training is extremely traumatic and done very quickly. It can also abuse young children and babies. It is also illegal, done very secretly and abuses dissociation and split personality development and having many personalities. The mind control is also very robotic in its operation with cueing, coded language, etc. The last major difference is that the victim has no consciousness of the abuse. However, fundamentally it is the same as a working class child being programmed to be a worker with bad schooling, alarm clock cues to go to work, and little information around him/her to understand the socio- economic abuse which means s/he also has little consciousness of the abuse.

 

As with all conditioning, programming runs out after a while. Like any conditioning it gets lessened particularly with no contact. Perpetrators actually reprogram to try and reinforce the original programming and if this stops then the programming lessens in intensity. It doesn’t go away completely but does not seriously affect as before. Programming gets lesser in its intensity, unless there is a program built in to continue it which is common and needs to be addressed as with all personality parts. As with healing all problems and emotional stress, there is a lessening in the effects of the violence and the lies.

 

 

A Humanitarian and Normal Approach

 

Before explaining the specific ways of deprogramming, and within the aim of demystifying it, it is important to approach deprogramming from humanitarian and normal perspectives. This is important for the victim/survivor because we are deceived into thinking that we are robots and are very different from normal people. For victims/survivors and supporters it is important to address our humanity. We breathe, eat, wash, enjoy music, films, travelling, etc and as with survivors of other forms of abuse basically need the good and beneficial things in life to deprogram. We need a clear and independent mind, intelligent information and stimulation, good physical exercise, good recreation, good food, good sex, good health, etc. We need healthy emotions and the ability to release trauma and pain. Looking after yourself means being a model for the personalities. They can see that the general you is looking after yourself through good food and exercise and so will see that they can benefit as well from these.

 

When dialoguing with parts it is important to be aware of the parts age and his/her intellectual and physical abilities. Suggest ways of undoing trauma, lies and escaping that fit in with their age and abilities. Some victims/survivors refer to their programming as “the system” and also call the parts by the code names the perpetrators called them. Common names are generally public known ones such as Rambo, Bart as in Simpson, Mickey Mouse, etc. They call them this because this is what they know and/or to reclaim the words for themselves. I prefer not to do either as it reinforces the programming for my parts. I don’t call  “the system” anything. I see myself as having many parts. Some are controlled by the grubs, and some are by me.  I also don’t call parts code names it is only reinforcing the programming and these are not their names anyway. I allow them to call themselves what they want.

 

In reality, dissociated parts are really you. This doesn’t feel like it as they seem to be acting against your wishes. But they are in fact in your body and mind. What is specific about programming is that parts are controlled by a perpetrator and so therefore the victim/survivor needs to reclaim them which is in fact reclaiming yourself. The worst thing to do is see them as alien to you or like they’ve “invaded your mind from outside”. They were sepaarted from you by trauma and then deceived. So therefore they are you. A good comparison is to see parts as like wayward children of good parents. Children can be deceived that their parents are wrong or not normal or not caring , etc by other children or society generally. As with looking after these children, its is good to parent personalities, particularly young ones and show real love and care. Eventually they will see that you, like parents of wayward children, are good and will see that perpetrators are horrible and return or become associated.

 

Remember that all parts are really really good. Never criticise a part. Its like treating children as naughty and to get info “out of them” which they believe is not good to tell you because you will be killed. Always look after and respect them. Always respect promises made to them. Show them that you will not put them in a harmful situation. Let them act out with no serious harm if it takes the pressure off.

 

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