Safety

 

Introduction and Definitions

 

What is Safety?

 

Safety is not being victimised or abused by the grubs. This means not being accessed, reprogrammed, intimidated and/or deployed by the grubs. This is what is desired when wanting and obtaining safety and which means freedom from the abuse. Unfortunately after getting memory and validation, victims/survivors still have programming and so therefore can still be accessed, reprogrammed, intimidated and/or deployed by the grubs. Counsellors who work with gmc victims/survivors believe that 90% of victims/survivors are still being accessed during therapy. Therefore safety is really seen as something to achieve.

 

Getting safety is the first tangible step in recovery. It is a conscious desire to create both psychological and physical spaces that are free from grub abuse. It means getting rid of enough programming in your mind and creating a physical space where no harm can happen. The desire for, and obtaining of, safety is itself creating a base or nest, and something to fall back onto when in times of crisis or uncertainty. It is also the awareness that you are actually escaping or have actually escaped.

 

The grubs have lied and deceived about “safety” as they know how important an issue it is. One perpetrator may lie that s/he is “safe” or this place is “safe”, or “someone else is unsafe” etc in order to get you to stay in one place or to go on a mission. Another perpetrator may say the same or different. The important thing to remember is to not believe any perpetrator on anything.

 

Therefore it is important to understand what real safety is. As agmc victims/survivors we generally have not experienced real safety at any time and so we may need to learn. Use your intuition, dreams, rationality, whether you have actually been accessed, reprogrammed and/or deployed by being aware of lost time and feeling spaced out. Get feedback from a partner, friends and counsellor as to whether you are very dissociated, not your usual self and losing time. These are signs of being accessed.

 

 

Psychological and Physical Safety and their Interrelationships

 

We therefore have to build psychological and physical safety. Psychological safety is freeing yourself from programming, particularly accessing, as this is the major way that the grubs control. Physical safety is stopping the accessing in its physical means eg controlling the telephone and email, and stopping possible intimidation. Psychological and physical safety is interrelated. If you feel physically safe, you also feel psychologically safe. When you want psychological safety you also create physical safety.

 

Psychological Safety

Safety is a personal place in one self where the grubs and its brainwashing and abusive memories cannot psychologically get to. The aim is to create a more solid safe place in ones self. This is the free, creative, untouched, analytical, joyous, childlike, adventurous, soulful nature of yourself. From this base you can start to work on the memories and the brainwashing better.

 

Many survivors are deceived into thinking that a survivor does not or cannot control any part of him/herself. The lie is that s/he is totally controlled by the grubs. This is a lie. First of all the survivor got actual memory of the abuse and is able to get validation that it does exist. If the mind was totally controlled, then s/he could not have gotten memory and sought out validation. Another lie is that the survivor is totally dependant upon the grubs. Challenge this by doing something when you want to. Go to the movies when you want, read information about grub abuse when you want, write about grub abuse when you want, even walk from one room to another by your own self, etc. Human beings are not and can never be robots. The grubs know this which is why they reprogram, try to maintain accessing, etc. WE are not robots and can really do whatever we want. Another way of proving this is that we sleep, eat, dream, have feelings and memories. If we were robots we wouldnt do these things.

 

From this awareness comes the conscious and true knowledge that you control your mind. There maybe lots of programming, but this is programming or lies and deception. Gradually by undoing the programming, you will see more and more that you in fact do control your own mind. You may know this already and its important to emphasise this.

 

The main way grubs control is through programming accessing. This is when unconscious parts have to contact at particular places and times by either email, private and public telephone, postal mail and/or face to face contact. This can happen in your city/town/region, while travelling. and in Australia or overseas. If you can stop the programming contact then you can break the control.

 

Stopping programming accessing means understanding the programming itself and being aware of where you are physically all the time. Understanding programming means lots of talking to parts inside, especially those that have to contact. You can ask if anyone inside has made contact with someone. Sometimes you may get no answers as parts are too afraid to answer because of the torture and lies. Sometimes you may get false answers to cover up what happened. Sometimes you may have to ask other parts who know of the contacting. but are not so intimidated. These parts maybe hushed up by contacting parts. Use your intuition and rationality or any other means to get an understanding of what is going on with the parts. Dont be critical or condemning. These parts have been cruelly treated and sometimes when they were children even infants and so understandably may balk and follow the lies of the perpetrator. Listen and talk soothingly but honestly. Be respectful. If there is too much retaliation going on respect this and also see it as a sign that contact is actually happening. Use approaches that allow parts to describe what the contact is but outside the confines of what they were forced to do. Most parts were forced into allegiance and the contacting with speaking it or writing it down. Ask them instead to draw what the contact is or to describe it another language if they know another language, or use words similar such as wedding for Wednesday, to use pictures from magazines, or to write it in the opposite hand they normally use for writing or any other way that can break the rules of allegiance and contacting. In this way they are not breaking the programming. The parts do want to tell you but are bound up. They will give you clues by these and other means and listen to them.

 

Mostly, you need to develop their trust and explain to them that they are being abused. They are being forced to do things which are against their interests. Child parts particularly know what injustice is and when they see this will go against the perpetrators and give you information instead. Sometimes you also need to be firm, but again not condemning, as they are so beguiled and treated like fools. Again once they see this they will help you. Parts are also abused between perpetrators acting like “good guys/bad guys”. You need to show that all the perpetrators are bad guys and actually know each other and are friends with each other. They are all bad guys. Explain this in that a supposed good guy is also pushing them to do things against what they want to do and when they want do it. Piece by piece, and sometimes with a lot information, the parts will give you information. They are not silly, but just treated as fools by the perpetrators. 

 

Another way of seeing if contacting is happening, it to constantly observe and be aware of what you are doing all the time. This may seem difficult, but after a while you get used to simply being aware of when and where you are. Use a daily diary and write down where you went and at what time. See if there are any patterns like going to a particular park on a particular day of the week, etc. See if there are any blank, missing times. Notice if you have any major unexplainable urges to leave the house to ring, email, make face to face contact, etc or be back at the house for ringing from you phone or emailing, etc. Notice if you are making plans to do things but dont know what they actually are. ie youve organised your day about going into town to a park, but there is really no logical or any other reason to do this. You may have been forced to do face to face contact at the park. The awareness and exercises either reveal the accessing directly or will get parts to think about what is happening and with trust will reveal the accessing to you.

 

Overall, use your intuition, your feelings, your rationality – why was I in this place at this time? I would have rather been back at the house watching a video. Also your dreams or whatever gives you information, and most all listen to what parts are trying to tell you.

 

 

Physical Safety

 

As said before, physical safety is important for stopping programming and intimidation, and helps to make you feel psychologically safe. There are many ways of obtaining physical safety.

 

With programming and accessing, it is important to control the ways the grubs may communicate and intimidate. These are the telephone, email, postal mail and face to face contact. With postal addresses, postal mail can be only postal boxes with redirected addresses. The post office is very concerned about privacy and will try its hardest to ensure this. You/the survivor could also ask a community centre, religious counselling agency, therapist, etc if their addresses can be used. With institutional recording of addresses such as banks and social security, you/the survivor can give a post office box. When they ask for a home address with social security you/the survivor can ask for privacy whereby only the manager of the office has access. Escaping a religious organization/cult is grounds in Australia.

 

With telephone numbers, you/the survivor can also make up a name when having the phone connected. Telstra does not require identification with over the phone instillation. If you/the survivor receives intimidating calls, Telstra can change the number, sometimes free of charge. You/the survivor can also have a mobile phone with only a post office box. You/the survivor can also use an answering machine to screen calls. With email addresses you/the survivor can obtain a free and anonymous email address at an internet email address provider where you do not need to either give a street/postal address or a correct one. Some providers are: http://www.mail.yahoo.com/, http://www.hotmail.com/, http://www.mailandnews.com/.

 

Some victims also have to ring from public phones with specific times and numbers- sometimes free call numbers. This is because they maybe travelling or more accurately being abused on missions or because they are in a share house or flats close to each other where people could be listening. If you feel urged to leave the house or to find a public phone at particular times then this is programming and accessing. This can happen in Australia or overseas.

 

An important issue is that the grubs rely mostly on programming for contacting. So even if you have private postal and email addresses and telephone numbers, it is the programming within you that they abuse. In other words you could change your telephone number many times, but if you are programmed to ring say on Thursday afternoon at two o’clock, changing these numbers does not really affect what happens. Your deceived and tortured parts will still ring. The important thing is to be aware of lost time or feeling spaced out, or having an urge to do something, etc. Changing or having private telephone numbers, postal addresses and email addresses is important in that the grubs cannot contact you on these which they may have been relying upon. Even if it is the programming times rather than the number that is important, by changing the number it also challenges the programming and forces you to rethink about what is actually happening. Why has there been a change in numbers? Is it because there is accessing going on? By talking to parts and seeing what is happening you can get an understanding of what is really happening.

 

Stopping face to face contact depends on the situation. If it is programming in that subconscious parts are meeting someone either at a particular place or your home, it is again important to be aware of lost time or feeling spaced out, or having an urge to do something out of the ordinary or contrary to what you want to really do. With intimidation where you are consciously being harassed such as someone coming to the door, you can call the police. Get a description and the license number of the car if possible and pass it onto the police and a lawyer. This applies to stalkers both walking and by car.

 

If a perpetrator, including someone in the family continues to harass, then you can press and be granted an apprehended violence order (called an avo) through a court. An avo specifically stops any written, telephone, internet or face to face contact and is supported by the police. Both are relatively easy to get. A letter of demand can be simply written by a lawyer and a court will grant avos when a person shows some form of intimidation. Lawyers know how to get an avo very quickly. The avo particularly is treated very seriously by the police. (Lawyers can be free or very cheap for people on a health care card in Australia. Just ring Legal Aid in each state.) You do not have to explain eg as a grub survivor, why you do not want contact. The courts or police cannot demand a reason from you for why you are being harassed. This is simply intimidation and must stop and goes for both men and women survivors. Some survivors have said that they are sexual assault survivors (so as to not to have to explain grub stuff) which gives the police some understanding and sympathy.

 

If you feel like challenging the perpetrator/s to lessen or actually stop the programming and intimidation, anonymously write down the abuse and said a copy to the grub abuser. Tell the grub abuser that copies have been given to unidentified trusted lawyers and counsellors which you have done. If the grub perpetrator does do anything you can call on the counsellor and the lawyer to provide the information. Basically it is calling their bluff and does stop them.

 

 

Travelling Constantly

 

Many survivors constantly travel for physical safety. Constantly travelling can mean less accessing and reprogramming. The grubs would like you to be in one place as the main perpetrator is there and can manipulate you directly either with close accessing, deployment and/or reprogramming. The main perpetrator knows the main cues and deception abused. Also a lot of their time and money went into the programming which they do not want to lose. And there is some arrogance in that the perpetrator treats the victim like s/he is some “personal pet”.

 

The agmc organisation is however a national and even international operation and network. Perpetrators can access and reprogram anywhere if you are being accessed although it is more difficult and means more reprogramming. However, if you keep on moving this programming can become worthless as it is not tied to a particular “home based” perpetrator. However, perpetrators can also network with each other and just supply the “appropriate cues” for accessing and deployment to each other.

 

A major concern is that the constant travelling may also be in reality that you are being sent on missions as a courier and spy. The grubs may have deceived you into thinking that you are “escaping” and owe them something which is to courier information and spy.

 

To examine this possibility, look at whether you actually enjoy travelling constantly, want to actually settle down, want to do both, etc. Look at what your dreams are saying and how you actually feel about travelling constantly. Sometimes you may need to compromise – which is the greatest fear- being reprogrammed or going on missions? You can also pretend you are going on missions and then not.

 

 

Settling Down

 

Some survivors choose to settle down either in a new place or in the city/town/region they are at. The advantages of settling down are: your own space – the freedom to do what you actually want in that space, consistency, developing friendships and partnerships, going to work and doing studies, recreation in one place, a permanent on going counselling relationship, a long term support network close by, having pets, a garden, etc, having your own computer, tv/video, etc. Psychologically it is a nest and a reminder that you have escaped the grubs.

 

The problem with settling down is that it can mean being accessed and reprogrammed. Some survivors are aware of this and also aware that they can stop it. They are confident that they know how to stop being accessed, reprogrammed and intimidated.

 

What is important in choosing to settle down is truly knowing yourself and whether you can deal with possible accessing, reprogramming and intimidation. Also consider if you really want to settle down and you enjoy being in one place constantly. Most survivors do settle down and enjoy the comforts and consistency of a home.

 

 

Moving to a New Place

 

Safety can also mean physically escaping to another area that is a long way from the main grub perpetrators.  It is usually best to go to another city/town far away in another state or the other side of the country or even move to another country. This can be permanently or temporarily especially until the accessing programming at least is undone . This can be important both psychologically and physically. It is also important to try and pick a place that you were not sent to before or which the grubs didnt want you to go to. As said before, the grubs would like you to be in one place as the main perpetrator is there and can manipulate you directly either with close accessing, deployment and/or reprogramming. The main perpetrator knows the main cues and deception abused. Also a lot of their time and money went into the programming which they do not want to lose. And there is some arrogance in that the perpetrator treats the victim like s/he is some “personal pet”. But agmc is a national and even international operation and network and the main perpetrator may pass on the cues and accessing, etc to another programmer in that new area and you maybe reprogrammed. Also be careful that you maybe relocated to a new city/town/region deliberately by the grubs as they may want the particular skills you were forced to get or for any other reason. They may try and deceive you that “they will help you escape perpetrators where you are staying”, but in fact are abusing you. Listen to what parts are telling you and whether you actually want o move to this new town. 

 

 

Staying in the Same Place

 

Some survivors choose to stay in the same place they were abused in either as children and/or adults. They do this because they simply like the place and do not wish to move. They have built up long term friendships, counselling relationships, have innocent  family, abused or not living there, and who can be really important in escaping.  They may also know the media and other ways of educating about the abuse better because they have lived in the place for a long time. They may also simply enjoy the climate, what the city/town/region offers, etc. Safety is an important issue here as the long term perpetrators are also based there. A lot of breaking accessing is important. However, breaking programming and accessing is essentially the same everywhere and can be achieved in a place of long term abuse.

 

 

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