Even
though there are no rigid stages of recovery, survivors and counsellors have
found that survivors do follow some loose stages. The stages generally are:
awareness of being abused either currently or in the past. This comes from memories
and/or finding information eg newspapers and survivors. The second stage is
acceptance and validation that the abuse exists. AGMC survivors generally need
to validate these memories or current situation more as the grubs attempt to
stop memory of it, and society generally hasnt accepted it. The next stage is
finding safety from grub intimidation and brainwashing. This is important for
feeling safe within oneself in order to work on the memories and the
indoctrination. The fourth stage is survivorship when the survivor empowers
him/herself so that she/he controls his/her life. This basically is about
working through the indoctrination process (programming) or deprogramming, and
working on the memories of the deployment and how you/the survivor was forced
into them.
It can be done alone, however, all survivors
I have talked to have seen it close to necessary to get support from a
counsellor, other survivors, literature, the internet, workshops, support
groups, etc. The last stage is breaking away from this support network and
establishing an independent life that is not seriously affected by the abuse.
These stages are not fixed. Eg a person can be in therapy for non specific
reasons and then get memory and then follow the stages. They are the general
pattern of what survivors go through.
Unfortunately,
survivorship takes some time. Generally for all survivors, it takes many years
to fully break free. This is because the grubbermint abused you for many years
and it takes time to work out and escape from their attempted control and
manipulation. To fully break free means to not be directly controlled and
manipulated, and to have an actual life that is not determined by the effects
of the abuse. Having a non abused Life means being sufficiently able to leave
the past behind.
Recovery for any abuse, is the process of freeing oneself from an abusive situation and its effects. We cope with the lies and violence and can work through the memories to be rid of them. AGMC abuse recovery follows the same steps. The aims of the recovery are to escape the perpetrators and work on the programming and deployment memories so that we are not affected seriously by them. There are important considerations when working through the stages. These are doing memory work, having professional support, having general support and stopping guilt.
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